After the birth of my first daughter I was exhausted – labor for 36 hours which resulted in a cesarean section. It turned out her head was too big to pass through my pelvis. Then I had issues with breast feeding her. She would not nurse well and started losing weight. We had to supplement her with a significant amount of formula. I felt like a failure at being a Mom. First I can’t give birth naturally and then I couldn’t nourish her – UGH!
I was so depressed about it but couldn’t tell anyone because I felt ashamed. Now some of that was probably hormonal but I definitely was questioning my ability to be a good Mom. I asked myself why couldn’t my body provide for her, what was wrong with me? She did nurse some but not long enough to get the amount needed to nourish her. I felt like I had failed my daughter because formula was not as good as breast milk in regards to making antibodies and boosting her immune system.
Once she started gaining weight and smiling the thoughts of failure started to fade away. She was a healthy, growing, beautiful baby. That is what mattered, not whether she got that way by nursing or taking formula.
Many times we are our own worst critic. No one else thought I was a bad Mom, inadequate or a failure, it all came from within me. This is a common theme with many clients. The woman that comes to me stressed out and feels like a failure because she can’t juggle everything she thinks she should be able to. The woman that is stuck in grief from yet another failed relationship. Another example is a woman with chronic pain that can no longer work and feels like she failed herself and her family.
My 5 step system helps you to clear out the old trauma and negative story. I guide you in discovering new insights, finding peace and improved confidence. Yes sometimes we do actually fail but finding the lesson in it makes it positive and of value. If you are suffering with pain from a failure story I can help. I work with your body, mind and spirit to heal physical and emotional pain. Contact me for a free 30 minute consultation.
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Laurie Ratto, RN, Speaker, HTCP, CCA has 30+ years’ experience helping people to heal from physical, mental , and emotional pain. She provides a safe, nurturing space for women to release fears and self-doubt, what spiritually ties us to pain. Laurie Ratto specializes in complementary medicine, as a holistic healer, she keeps her RN certification current because she understands the power of balance as we heal.